Community June 22
You should either avoid quarrels altogether or else put an end to them as quickly as possible . . . (Rule 41).
If one or other party in a dispute is closed to the possibility of a solution, is fixed on one’s own point of view, wishes to win at all costs, suspects and mistrusts the other person or remains fearful and hostile, the conflict will not be resolved. If, on the other hand, a person has more constructive attitudes like openness to solutions, the desire to find avenues that are mutually satisfying, the understanding of the other person's point of view, the appreciation that truth is multi-faceted and confidence in the other person, a solution emerges. Everybody must be a reconciling person. Otherwise, how would we be worthy of membership in the Church that searches to embrace every person? How could we show our obedience to Christ who asks that we pardon seventy-seven times seven times? How would we be children of God who lets rain fall on the just and the unjust?
The person who does not come to terms and proceed by reconciliation will suffer defeat a second time. (Nande)